The Importance of Date Nights

So you’re married now and there are children taking your attention. There are also bills to pay, work to go to, and a career to see to. And let’s not forget about the neighbours, extended family and household shopping. The list is endless. 

Many couples get so caught up in the day to day that slowly they forget to romance each other, complement each other, express love and eventually it affects their sex life. 

It is very important in any marriage to keep the romance, love and the desire to have sex with each other alive. As a couple you must make time for this and understand its importance for the wellbeing of the family.

This article is about date nights and how to go about doing it, making time for it and how it will keep that attraction and love between you both alive.

Why is having a date night important for a couple?

There are many reasons why a specified date night is important for a couple. They are:

1. It is a time for just the two of you to spend time with each other without children, pets, family and friends.
2. It is a time where you dress up for each other.
3. It is a time where you focus on each other.
4. It is a time where you can notice each other, find each other attractive and act on it. 
5. It is also a time where you can express your feelings towards each other without interruption. 

How often should you have date night?

You both can have a date night once a week or once every two weeks depending upon your schedule. However, it should not be less than this.

How can you prepare for your date night?

1. On the day of your date night finish whatever you are doing early so you can start to relax, unwind and get ready.
2. Choose your outfit, shoes and accessories the day before and have them ready to wear.
3. Even if you have showered, put on makeup and perfume in the morning, do it again before you get ready for your date night.
4. Make sure you look different from your day to day look. Put that extra effort in and feel sexy and hot. 
5. Wear sexy lingerie/underwear to make sure you look just as hot underneath your clothing.

Pointers for date night

1. Do not make any other plans for the evening or afterwards. Reserve the whole evening for yourself and your partner. 
2. Leave all your problems, issues and worries at home.
3. Forget you are parents (if you are) and put yourselves first.
4. Do not bicker, argue or make digs. Compliment one another and feel good about each other.
5. Do not talk about the children, loans, debts, the mortgage, bills, stressful work or family. Instead talk about each other, feelings, and interests.  

What can you do for your partner in between date nights to keep the romance and love going?

1. Leave each other love ‘post it’ notes.
2. Send love texts to each other during the day.
3. Try to hug each other as often as you can, especially in the morning and before bed.
4. Smile at each other.
5. Give each other at least 1 complement every day. 
6. Tell each other at least once a day that you love each other.