Hi. It's 4 weeks since my husband of 25 years told me he wants to leave. I don't want to split but i have to go along with it. I just want it over and done with. I do't know where to even start. Please help.
Notifications
Clear all
Nov 10, 2022 8:53 am
5 Replies
Nov 10, 2022 10:59 am
Hello Carron! Welcome to the IAMLIP website and forum. I first want to reach out and say I'm sorry for what you’re going through, it must be a very hard time. We’re here and you’re not alone.
I have spoken to Celina and would first advise you to not leave the family home unless you feel that you are in danger. We would also suggest trying out mediation first. Read this page to guide you through the process (and what to do if mediation does not work). https://iamlip.com/mediation/
It’s very hard to make clear decisions when emotions are involved so go through our help guides one by one to help you through the process. I am off to a staff meeting and will get back to you this afternoon with further advice. In the mean time, use this website to start familiarising yourself with all your options moving forward.
Nov 10, 2022 1:23 pm
I agree with the admin. Leaving the house can make it difficult to get back in. Let's say you return to the house (now that you're not currently staying there) and get into an argument, your ex-partner can call the police who can then tell you to return to wherever you're staying because you're 'disturbing the peace'. They may tell you to try and get a court order to return.
It basically becomes the 'space' of whichever one of you is left there once the other leaves, making it hard for the other to try and return.
Nov 10, 2022 10:21 pm
@ash10 That's what happened to me! I went back to my home that both my ex-partner and I own and I was told to leave and get a court order to get back into the house. It's been 2 years now and I'm still not back in.
Nov 10, 2022 10:41 pm
I agree with the comment made by Ash. As long as you are not in any danger, remain in your home. This will save you further stress trying to return, if you wish to return, and will allow you to fully know what is going on with your home if you both decide not to continue keeping the residence.
I would also advise you to go through both help guides 1 and 2 to help you start the process and make it easier for you both going forward. This way you can communicate what you want to do and how you want to go about your divorce/separation.
The L.I.P community and this forum will always be here whenever you need help, advice or support.
Nov 22, 2022 11:24 am
Hello
I am new to this forum. I am 2 years post divorce. The kids have no contact with their father. I however have to communicate with him every two months. It’s triggering and emotionally heavy. Then he responds a week after and it’s like the wounds are bleeding again. There is a positive in that the kids are safe and are protected. I have to hold onto that
